Right after Christmas last year, I decided to brush up my online dating profile and really focus on finding love. Much to my surprise, everyone else seemed to have the exact same idea. I got more emails from interesting people in the 2-3 weeks after Christmas than I had in the last 6 months. What on earth was going on?! The more I thought about it, the more it made sense. This is a great time of year to get back out there because:
People tend to stop dating over the holidays
It’s pretty common for single people to cut down or stop dating during the holidays. They don’t want to have the stress of inviting someone they just started dating to holiday parties or family get-togethers. People are also really busy with parties, shopping, and out of town visits. Dating isn’t usually a priority during the holiday season, but as soon as the busy period is over, many will feel reinvigorated and ready to start afresh.
Reminders of family
Many of you have been hearing the same question from your parents, siblings, aunts, etc, “Why are you still single?” Even if they aren’t asking these questions, being around family can often remind us of our own long-term priorities which may include creating your own family (whatever form this may take).
New Year’s resolutions
As soon as you know it, 2016 will be here. This is the perfect time to make some New Year’s resolutions, which may include finding your mate. Resolutions can often make people feel braver than usual and more open to new things. The new year is the perfect time to make a fresh start and finding someone online is a great way to do this.
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner
I know, I know, it’s too soon to think about Valentine’s Day! It’s actually only 7 short weeks away. While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with not having a date, if you’d like to spend it with a special someone, this is the right time to find them.
All of the above reasons (and others) result in more people being online and being more focused on their search. More people means more choices for you. This can be a bit overwhelming, but if you can stay focused and positive, this can be an amazing time to find someone. If you’ve never created an online dating profile (or you’d like to reinvigorate your current profile), here’s some quick words of advice:
The aim of your online dating profile should not be to attract huge numbers of people by crafting the ideal mate, but rather to attract the right person for you.
Embrace your geekdom
You are a fully-formed person with many interests, both geeky and non-geeky. Put all of this into your profile. They may not share your interests (yet), but I’ll bet they’ll find it interesting and it’ll be a conversation starter.
Be specific and positive
If there are certain things that you’re looking for in a mate, put this into your profile. Remember though to always be positive and stick to what you’re looking for, not what you don’t like. A positive attitude is key to successful online dating.
Post some great photos that look like you now
You’re amazing now, exactly the way you are, so embrace that. Most of us don’t have nice, current photos lying around, so go bug your friend or co-worker, or use that selfie setting on your phone and take some new shots. Natural lighting is best and make sure you’ve got multiple photos ready to post that are both close-up and full-body shots.
Try multiple dating sites
There are hundreds of dating sites out there, so try more than one. If you’re interested in dating a fellow geek, SoulGeek and Geek2Geek are great options. The populations on these sites are small and specialized, so you may also want to try one of the more general sites like Match.com or eHarmony.
My personal recommendation is OKCupid. They are a free site, so there are a ton of singles on there. This can be bad as you’ll have to sift through more profiles and messages, but they have a fine-tuned search functionality that allows you to search on age, gender, status, zip code, if they want kids, etc. Most important, you can search by keyword, so if you’re looking for a geek, you can just look at profiles that use specific words like comics, Star Wars, or nerd. There are also plenty of other specialty sites that focus on specific interests, religions, age groups, etc. Take a look around, try some different sites, and see what works best for you.
Remember that your future mate is out there and is hopefully getting their online profile ready, just like you. I met the love of my life online on Dec 31st last year via OKCupid. I had been frustrated by the dating scene and it took the holidays to get me back out there with the right mindset. Stay positive, stick with it, and best of luck out there!
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